If there is one thing that almost all parents have in common, it is that we worry. We worry about our kids, we worry about our finances, we worry about the future, and sometimes we even worry about the past. While some level of anxiety is good and can help us focus and take care of what is important, too much anxiety is bad for us and bad for our kids.
Just what is anxiety? Generally, anxiety is defined as sense of uneasiness about the future. These feelings affect both the body and the mind. When you become anxious, your body releases a hormone called adrenaline. It is nature's way of warning you that danger (both real and imagined) is imminent. As anxiety increases, you are likely to experience symptoms such as a pounding heart, quickened breathing and perspiration. The more you worry about something, the stronger these symptoms are likely to become.
Many people experience mild to moderate episodes of anxiety. For some, such nervousness may interfere with their ability to enjoy life fully. In some cases, the symptoms become severe and a panic atack results. Physical symptoms intensify the attack: sweating, racing heart, rapid pulse, feeling faint or as if one is choking. At this point, medical attention is usually required.
For most of us, there are steps you can take to reduce or even eliminate your anxious feelings.
- Keep a positive attitude. Try the Complaint-Free Challenge.
- Accept that there are events that you cannot control.
- Be assertive instead of aggressive. Assert your feelings, opinions, or beliefs instead of becoming angry, defensive, or passive.
- Learn and practice relaxation techniques; try meditation, yoga, or tai-chi.
- Exercise regularly. Your body can fight stress better when it is fit.
- Eat healthy, well-balanced meals.
- Learn to manage your time more effectively.
- Set limits appropriately and say no to requests that would create excessive stress in your life.
- Make time for hobbies and interests. Do what you enjoy doing!
- Get enough rest and sleep. Your body needs time to recover from stressful events.
- Don't rely on alcohol, drugs, or compulsive behaviors to reduce stress.
- Seek out social support. Spend enough time with those you love. Plan a fun activity with your children.
It is very important to remember that if these techniques aren't effective or your anxiety interfers with your day-to-day activities, it is time to seek the advice of a medical professional.
